bhaskar saikia

We all dream of a beautiful life—one filled with joy, meaning, and peace. Yet, for many of us, happiness feels like an elusive goal, something reserved for the “lucky few.” But what if happiness isn’t about luck at all? What if designing a beautiful life is less about waiting for chances and more about the choices we make every day?

Why Happiness Slips Away

There are three main reasons why many of us fail to live a happy, fulfilling life:

1. We don’t believe it’s possible. We convince ourselves that happiness belongs to others, not us.
2. We cling to excuses. Our reasons for unhappiness often outweigh our efforts to change.
3. We forget responsibility. It is our job—not society’s, not the government’s, not our friends’—to make life meaningful.

And so, we chase happiness in gyms, salons, or shopping malls, mistaking consumption for contentment. But happiness, in truth, costs nothing—it’s always been within us, waiting to be embraced.

The Victim Mindset and the Lies We Tell

Too often, people slip into the role of a victim—believing the world, society, or fate has wronged them. While injustice and hardship are real, constantly seeing ourselves as victims blinds us to growth. Ironically, while we play victims, we also contribute to the suffering of others—often through lies, both big and small.

But the most dangerous lies are the ones we tell ourselves: I am ordinary. I am unlucky. I am not enough. These lies keep us from living fully, chaining us to mediocrity.

The Myth of Luck

We love to call successful people “lucky.” But peel back the surface, and you’ll see stories not of chance, but of effort.

Elon Musk once worked in lumber mills before he built companies that revolutionized space travel, clean energy, and online payments. Steve Jobs, ousted from the very company he co-founded, returned to lead Apple into an era of world-changing innovation. Were they lucky? Hardly. They were determined, relentless, and willing to fail and try again.

To reduce their journeys to “luck” is to dismiss the human spirit of resilience and vision.

Designing Your Own Life

So, how do we design a beautiful life? Not through waiting for fortune, but by:

• Letting go of excuses and victimhood.
• Owning our responsibility for joy.
• Learning from others and from ourselves.
• Listening to the inner voice that already knows what’s best for us.

Happiness isn’t a prize at the end of the race. It’s the way we choose to walk the path. And yes, it is possible to design a life of meaning and beauty, not by luck, but by intention.

For those already living with joy—you are the torchbearers, reminding the rest of us that happiness is still alive and possible.

So, what are you waiting for? Begin today. Design your beautiful life.