bhaskar saikia

Anger — we’ve all felt it. It rises like a storm inside, often bursting out in ways we later wish we could pull back. One moment we’re calm, and the next, our voice climbs higher, our tone sharpens, and suddenly we’re shouting at someone we care about.

But have you ever wondered — why do we shout when we’re angry, yet whisper when we’re in love?

There’s a beautiful logic to it.

When two people are in love or feel deep affection for each other, their hearts are close. The connection is tender, immediate. Even a whisper is enough, because the bond between them doesn’t need to bridge any distance. In that space of affection, silence itself becomes rich with meaning.

But when anger erupts, something inside us shifts. Our hearts pull away, creating a distance no one can see but both can feel. We shout not because the other person is hard of hearing, but because the space between our hearts has grown. We raise our voices in an unconscious attempt to cross that emotional gap. Yet the louder we shout, the wider the gap becomes.

In truth, anger is not the enemy. It is a signal — a cry from within that something matters deeply. But when we let anger lead us to raise walls instead of voices of understanding, we lose what we actually seek: connection.